Why do people stay “losers”?
Even before graduating college, I often found myself managing large groups of students-or, at different points in my life, wrangling little campers. Shortly after graduation, I stepped into a role overseeing nearly 100 employees at an international grocery store. At the same time, I was cultivating my own small business, which involved sales and large-scale interviewing. I don’t type all of that to tell you how busy and “productive” I was, but rather to highlight that through those experiences, the number of people I’ve met and worked with has truly been innumerable.
This level of exposure to human nature has led me to believe something fundamental to my worldview: most struggling people don’t want to stay stuck. Instead, they often lack the tools and resources to improve their situations—or the confidence to realize they already possess everything they need to change their lives.
This belief matters because if you also see the world this way, then you can have hope—hope that you are just one pro tip, one moment of clarity, or one boost of confidence away from your breakthrough.
Another key realization I’ve had is that we live in a world plagued by an epidemic of poor time management, low accountability, and shaky self-esteem. Whenever I bring up time management, people tend to react in one of two ways: they either tense up or puff out their chest. Some proudly display their color-coded Google Calendars and checklists that account for every minute of the day. Others shrink back, ashamed that they can’t seem to motivate themselves to complete their daily tasks.
Both groups need this book. Just because you’re a calendar-planning machine doesn’t mean you’re actually achieving your goals—or that you’re happy. Trust me, that’s the side of the fence I know best.
Then there are those who feel defeated by this topic because they’ve tried and failed so many times. I never truly understood or empathized with that side of the spectrum until I met my husband. I watched him repeatedly try to re-engineer his entire life, only to end up more deflated each time. Over our ten years of dating, I learned to see the world through both lenses: the hyper-productive planner and the overwhelmed finisher who doesn’t know where to begin.
This book is about the synthesis of both perspectives. Because ultimately, the reason people hold onto a “loser mindset” often comes down to three core issues:
Lack of Confidence – They no longer believe themselves when they say they’ll do something.
Perfectionism – They operate under the illusion of total control and blame themselves when plans fall apart.
Lack of Vision – They have no clear horizon or purpose to move toward.
Which of these keeps you stuck?
So, let’s take the first step together. In the next chapter, we’ll write down your vision—and make it plain.
“And the Lord answered me:
‘Write the vision;
make it plain upon tablets,
so he may run who reads it.
For still the vision awaits its time;
it hastens to the end—it will not lie.
If it seem slow, wait for it;
it will surely come, it will not delay
”
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